Today I'm 8 weeks pregnant :) I still have not told my family (other than my dad who was here during the IVF), I am holding out till 10 weeks. Once we get past that milestone I think I will start to feel more confident.
Monday was my birthday and I had a quiet day off, it was nice and I spent the time reading in a chair next to the fireplace. It was marred slightly by the call from my mum, which inevitably turned to her discussing babies with me, and whether I would contemplate IVF, or maybe I could use my sister-in-law as a surrogate. She even managed to tell me that my SIL had offered up her services - I mean that's beautiful and such a selfless thing to do BUT we weren't asking. I hate the idea that my fertility (or lack of) has become a discussion point, and they can freely chat about my personal life and how to "fix" it.
I could have told her on the phone that there was no need, instead I said that I was happy with my current situation and that I was taking life as it goes. I know she is trying to be helpful, but seriously she makes me want to scream!!!
Since last week the m/s has been ramping up, it changed from all day nausea into vomiting, and I had 5 lovely days where everything I ate after 11am did not stay long in my system. Yesterday I woke to no symptoms, no nausea, no vomiting nothing - I was completely freaked out. I was sure something was wrong, it was 7weeks 5days last time (although we didn't find out till 10wks) so I was on the verge of tears all day. I don't want to be that woman that phones her RE and demands an ultrasound because she is freaking out. Luckily around 8pm the hiccup/burps and the nausea came back, and this morning I feel the threat of vomiting looming.
It's insane, I spent the last 5 days miserable wishing for a break, and when I got it I freaked out and wished I was sick again.... *sigh*
I need to start taking belly shots, I love the idea of a progress photo. I will make DH take one when he wakes later today. I weighted myself this am and I'm down 2lbs so that makes me feel happy - I am worried about gaining too much with this LO, esp since I am definitely not at my ideal weight right now!
According to WTE the baby is now the size of an olive! I think that's adorable :)
I know what you mean about the nausea! I was pregnant in September and lost the baby at 8 weeks with no nausea whatsoever during the pregnancy, if I ever get pregnant again I am PRAYING FOR NAUSEA just so I have a tangible symptom of a progressing pregnancy. Good luck over the next few weeks, here's hoping for a healthy easy first trimester!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday! And, sorry about the awkward conversation with your mother. I lucked out that my mother never, ever brought any of it up unless I brought it up myself. It kind of made us a little distant during it (since I wasn't bringing it up) but it was better for my sanity.
ReplyDeleteGlad (?) to hear the vomiting is back!! I must say that, as much as I don't want to be vomiting, I do wish I was sometimes for the same reason you said.
Like Rebecca said no vomiting here but a nice spew would be very reassuring. I keep telling myself it is because I have a cast iron constitution and never get sick! Glad it's all going well and looking forward to hearing about your mothers reaction!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy belated birthday! Family can be really awkward sometimes, soon you can tell them and their focus will hopefully change.
ReplyDeleteHappy belated Birthday!
ReplyDeleteI hate it when family tries to "fix" IF problems.
Happy VERY belated Birthday!
ReplyDeleteI hope your nausea keeps coming strong! ;)
Ugh. The offer to be a surrogate - especially when you've never expressed a need or desire for one - is one of the most offensive things anyone has said to me during my battle with infertility. I don't know why it upsets me so much, but I guess it's because I know that person must think I am so broken that I need their perfect body to make a baby. Sorry to rant about it, but some people just don't get it and it always rubs me the wrong way when I hear someone offer that up so casually. So sorry you had to deal with that conversation with your mom, but at least you could smile inside and know you don't need any of that because you are preggers!
ReplyDeleteHappy 8 weeks! And I would say don't stress about having a few days here and there where the nausea goes away. I started experiencing that too at about 8 weeks. My doctor said the placenta is starting to take over some of the work, so some of those symptoms will start to gradually fade. Like you, though, every time I think the symptoms are fading, they are back soon in full force, haha. Anyway, congrats on 8 weeks, and glad to hear things are going so well for you!