I haven't been very good about updating my blog recently, I guess its for a number of different reasons. I have pregnant IF guilt, I feel bad that I am pregnant after so many years of IF and the first trimester has been kicking my butt! I know how difficult it was for me to cope with pregnant people complaining about their pregnancies, and I would hate to think that my little gem of happiness was the trigger that ruined someones day.
I keep saying to my husband, "I feel miserable... I'm delighted that I feel miserable, but I wish I didn't feel so bad". This is something we desperately wanted, after 3 years of trying, 2 miscarriages, and going through treatment and IVF (and all its craziness), and I feel awful. For years I convinced myself all that needed to happen was to get pregnant and the world would be a happy, shiny place again, and yet I feel turned inside out.
I am, obviously, over the moon but I'm dealing with a lot of anxiety, and the first tri symptoms have not been easy for me.
But enough of my "complaints" - today I am 11wks 4 days, only 3 more days and I'm 12 weeks, officially I think the end of the first trimester is 13weeks? I am starting to feel better, the vomiting has dropped to an occasional twice a week, rather than 4-5 times a day, I'm still fluctuating between fatigue and insomnia, but I'm coping pretty well with it. I still have no cravings, just aversions - nothing sounds tasty to me, and the nausea, although no longer here every waking minute, is still around for a couple of hours each day.
We told my parents and siblings, bar my younger brother and his wife who are in a 2ww after their 2nd IVF, and everyone was delighted. I was completely blown away by their reactions - there were tears and screaming, and demands for visits and updates, and pics - it was wonderful. I plan on flying back home after the baby is born to visit, but I have a feeling I will have house guests before then. I am hoping my SILs IVF works this time - they have been trying for 7 years - hopefully they will get good news this week! If not I plan on having my parents tell my brother so he can break it to her in private, and I will send her a wee email. I am hoping that this news will not be too hard for her.
My DH told his parents and siblings. His mothers response was "oh congratulations" and then she told him about how she lost her cell phone, and how working is so hard... my DH was understandably upset. She asked no questions about me, or the baby, or when we were due, nothing.... His step-dad was super excited and asked everything. We told them we were only telling them and siblings, and extended family (grandmas/aunts etc) would be told at xmas after our next u/s.
The very next day I got a call from his grandma and texts from his aunts excited about the baby news - I was so mad! But I was in an impossible situation, I can't be mad at his aunts/Grandma - it's not their fault and their responses were beautiful - they were genuinely excited for us. I am so mad at DH's mum though - she didn't even care about our news, but she had to ruin our surprise for his aunts/grandma by telling them - it makes me so sad.
We have our NT scan scheduled for the 20th - I keep talking to my baby and urging them to stick around, and telling them how loved they are. It seems like an eon since I last saw our lo, even though it's not even been 2 weeks. I can not wait till i feel movements - I think that will help allay a lot of my fears.